I'm not a fan of the whole "suicide is selfish" train of thinking. I feel it's a harsh judgment of someone who was suffering enough in some capacity that not living was a better alternative than living.

However, I am also a survivor of suicide, a very messy suicide, and the person who is no longer suffering does leave a *horrible* burden behind (whether that is their intent or not). Many end up suffering from PSTD from the guilt, shame, pain, ridicule, and if the survivor witnessed the suicide, memories. For a lot of people you don't live, you just plod along trying to survive.

I wish that more who were suicidal understood that they will not be forgotten and that the people they are leaving behind aren't being saved, protected or relieved of a burden but that their suicide is going to toss the survivors into the deep end of the pool in a lead bathing suit.

But I guess that's the crux of it. For most people who reach the point that suicide is a viable option, they are in such a bad place that even if you showed them what life would be like after their death, they still would believe that they are better off dying. So selfish, no, no, no. Unable to be rational, yes but arguably, that contributes to the person committing suicide in the first place.

Blech. It's a crappy situation for everyone.